Navigating Life as a Lone Wolf vs. Sheep

In this digital age we have seen so many videos where they say to become unstoppable one needs to become a lone wolf. In this writeup I am going to explore this topic a bit.

Lineage

We are descendants of someone for sure, so many lives would have lived in order to provide us with life. Remember, one kid needs two parents, and those parents need 4 grandparents and so on. Beauty of geometric progression. Being lone wolf for us here means being so self-sufficient that we do not need anyone else, on the contrast being sheep in a heard means we depend on and follow others for almost anything and everything. Considering lineage equation, even if you want to become individual and self-sufficient you need to remember you still have a lineage. It is not easy to come out of the shadows of lineage, not impossible but definitely not easy. Relying of self when everything is going good looks magical, driving in a open car and letting your hair swirl to the open wind! absolutely a great thing to do. However when your health, finances, situations, relationships etc. can never be predicted to sail smoothly forever. Sometimes lone wolf type people feel it would be better to be a sheep in a heard even for temporarily.

Stimulation

Stimulation is the driving force of the life in the form of energy, it is the electrical signals that bring festivities to our brain. Sometimes lone wolf type people make it look so appealing to become and behave like one. The choices and the total control they have or at least what it looks like makes everything so surreal when you are around them. Remember lone wolf is a choice at the end of the day, word itself contains lone. Being a sheep in a heard is also not so bad when it comes to stimulations, you don’t have to fight or reinvent the wheel in challenging times. All that is needed is follow the heard and let it take its own course without the control or the feeling of it. Wolf or Sheep both have stimulations in different capacity and understanding what you need in which situations is a key here.

Difficult

Being lone wolf and sheep in a heard both are difficult, what is more difficult is not able to decide whether to be wolf or sheep. Constant dilemma that sways from this side to that is very painful. Guilt, agony and cursing are common when we decide one thing where we should have decided the other thing. It’s like taking one road at intersection thinking it would be open and only to realize it full of traffic after some time where the other road is totally empty. Finding happiness in the state of being a wolf or sheep can help a lot. Decide one thing and stick to it no matter what, because usually it is very late to change when we realize. Changing course takes lot of dedication, time and effort. Choosing anything is difficult and sticking to it is even more. Engage the people in difficult, challenging relationships – They can write essays on this 🙂

Gate

There is a clear-cut boundary between the lone wolf type and sheep type, visually very clear. This gate is where the transformation completes in case you would like to move on from being a sheep to wolf and vice versa. Lot of efforts needed to cross this border. Imagine you are a self-sufficient person your whole life and now you need to work with others and mingle on daily basis. Similarly, all your life you have followed someone and now you need to make major strategic decisions on your own. This is where the training, practice and will power to cross this gate comes into play. You can cross the gate many times for different aspects of your life provided Gate is present in between.

Articulate

Everyone has a way to articulate what they want, need or desire. Words carry lot of power. That is why countries resort to war as the last way to settle disputes. Diplomacy, talks are very important to maintain the balance of the world order. Whether you are a lone wolf or a sheep, you need to learn to articulate. Styles may differ because of the personality traits. That doesnt mean one cant learn the lingo of the other side. Be open, humble to learn the landscape of other side by keeping the original intent safe. How easy it would be to talk others who think like you, behave like you and maintains a pseduo facade of being perfect? It would be very easy like a cake walk, but remember articulating is not just agreeing – it is exploring and painting the thoughts with well chosen words.

Wrap

You can become a self-sufficient person but with humbles and openness of the dependent behavior, similarly you can be open to taking risks, and challenges by being a member of the crowd. It is like preserving your individuality between the culture that you belong to. When there is something greater than yourself it is better to be sheep in a heard rather than a lone wolf. But when it comes to self-preservation definitely better to become a lone wolf. We get to behave like both in many scenarios and it would become meaningful to learn which is beneficial given the circumstances as fast as possible.

Thank you, Until I write again Take Care